IMMATURE LOVE
Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says 'I need you because I love you".
When you're a young girl and you're just starting to find out that guys look at you, and you meet that one special one who makes your stomach twist and makes you want to show him everything that you are....you've found your first taste of love. But when you're young and so in desire of someone...anyone...to tell you that they want you and they care you for you, eveything is so confusing. When your not yet mature, you sometimes are so having such a horrible and dreadful time getting through each day, you find yourslef in need of this person who makes you feel special. You care for them....you want them....they want you...and then you discover that you can actually feel happy and wonderful when you're with them. And then you think, "I need him....I must love him". Need and love are two seperate things. You can need your mother or your friend, but you're not in love with them. But when your older and you've had quite a few of realtionships....some of them you loved....others you didn't....and then you meet someone who's just so completely and frustratingly different from the rest. He intoxicates you, mentally. And then, you have this very hot feeling in your chest when you think of him, you feel such warmth and tenderness just from one galnce that he gives you....and you feel love. You feel real love; and when you think about how very much you're in love with him, you start to think, "what if he was gone....what if I never met him?!!!" . You realize that you need him. And that's exactly the way it should be.
OPEN YOUR HEART
"You see that girl?...yea, her. She seems so invincable, right? But just touch her and she'll wince. She has secrets and and trusts no one. She's the perfect example of betrayal because everyone she's ever trusted broke her."
MAny of us are similar to this girl. We hide the hurt behind our eyes, and you know what? Those of us who are shattered and drained all love and emotion in our heart of hearts our the ones who might never get hurt again...but we'll also never feel anything worth feeling again. You have to open your heart. Yes, there are people who will take you and drag you down, tell you they love you, promise you every sweet thing in the world, and then they'll break you. They'll toss you aside and they won't even realize that they've just altered your entire life. It hurts to get your heart broken. It hurts to have felt so on top of the world and so steady, then to come falling off the Empire State building. You trusted your grandfather when he said he would walk you down the isle at your wedding...and he dies. You trusted your mom when she told you she would always understand...and she forgot. You trusted your brother when he said he wouldn't go across the country to go to college...and he got a scollarship. You trusted he, who was your entire world, ...and he left. And so you trust no more. If it's hot inside and you want to feel cooled down, you must open a window first. If you're lonely and broken inside and you want to feel love, you have to open your heart first.
BE THERE FORREVER
" I promise you, no matter what happens, when you look back, I'll always be there".
When you and your love are through, or so it seems, remember to tell him (even if it's only in your head) that no matter what happens, you'll always be a part of his histroy, just as he'll always be a part of yours. ANd nothing can ever change that. ONe day when you see him with his new girlfriend, there will be nothing that she can do about the fact that you have these beautiful and true memories of when you guys had everything. Because no matter what, this love did happen and you need no proof to show that it was real. You know it. And you will always have those woderful memories that you can look back to...they're a part of you and a part of what you have become. Yes, you must move on, but never forget. Never forget what gave you such happiness in your life. Recignize that what you felt was real, know it, believe it, but don't linger on it. Move on, but love what once was. ANd just like a histry book that won't change, your histroy together will forrever be noted in the heavens and someday things might change.
JUST A WORD
“Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning.”
What is love, but a four letter word? A dictionary definion might resemble "a strong emotional feeling for someone or something; adoration". Well what in the world kind of truth does that give us?! Nothing. Absolutely nothing. Love is just a word; an empty and hollow word with no set meaning at all. It holds no promises and offers you nothing.........until you experience it. The day you experience love for the very first time and it clicks into your brain, "Oh dear Lord, what has he done to me?! ..... he has taken me headfirst and fearless into this deep and beautiful fountain of youth! He has given me the youth of feelings; I feel immortal with him! .........I love him." The one day those feelings race through your blood and you feel an anticpation to know more of him and his cleverness and boldness and wonder....then for the first time in the history of the Earth, love will have meaning. And for the rest of your time in existence, you will do nothing but yearn to put more and more meaning to the beautiful word.
LOVE IS LIFE
"Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life."
Love is the very air to which we so dilleigently breathe and we grasp onto for dear life. It brings us solid ground in times of unbalance, and it brings us hope to face the world and carry ourselves through obstacles, not recklessly, but rather with courage, courage that the next day will be better and we can move on. Someone once said that you would walk through fire for the one you love , but if you dissect that little amount of courage, it all comes down to that you might as well be willing to give your life for that person because the truth is that without them, there is no life. Sure the world will go on, and the bees will still dance around the flowers in the sun for their sweet nectar, and the stars will still shine...maybe not as brightly....but shine, they will. But for you, there will be no life at all...without the person who rings light to your heart and meaning to you awakening every morining...what is life?
BEAUTY
"Love is the beauty of the soul."
Love is the beauty of the soul. Love is the one emotion that shows the depth and the true serenity of the human soul. There are so many negative and bad feelings that are a part of humanity that it makes it quite difficult to call the soul "beautiful". But when one looks at the love inside someone's heart, then you can see the true beauty of their soul. ANd if you think about it, all of us, as humans, are so competely different, but it's amazing how we all can be so similar when it comes to love.IF you were to dislike someone, and you simply could not stand them, and then you saw the way that person loved their soulmate, you might have a bit more difficulty hating them. THis is because when you saw the way that person loved with their entire being, you saw the beauty inside their soul and you saw the beauty inside their heart.
THE PERFECT LOVER
"We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love."
So many people have an idea in their head of what would be their ideal lover. They want the whole package, someone who can offer them everything that they want, and someone who could magically be so completely perfect that love would just pop out of thin air. It's easy to understand this desire...the desire for the person who could clench every single one of our thirsts perfectly...the thirst for tenderness, sensuality, understanding, upliftment, and the desire to be cherished. We want all of these things from one person without even having to put in the time and effort to bring these things out in them. That's what love is...being able to bring out the best in someone and yet loving them for their worst. So instead of having these stupid lists and ideals, create your perfect love...not the perfect person to love; because the perfect person can can fill in the blanks and let you place a check mark next to your ideals, but the perfect love can fill up the pages of hundred books.
WE ALL WEAR A MASK
"Love takes away the masks we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within."
In this world of hatred, suffering, and vindictiveness, there is one light to which we all look for at the end of our long dark tunnel. This light is our love for another being. We all spend our entire life scavenging for this feeling, but until we find it, we secure ourselves from the darkness and cruelness of the world with a mask. This mask is our safety and security that every person is entitled to; it let's us go out into the world without worrying that we will get ourselves hurt, but it also keeps our true selves hidden. And deep down we know that we cannot spend our entire life under such security, but the problem is that we lie to ourselves and everyone else by claiming that we wear no mask at all. And then someone comes along in our life; someone who would cause your mask to drop if you were to admit your true feelings for them. Then before you know what has happened, your security is gone and you're vulnerable, and the only thing you can do is take a risk on this person and beg the heavens above for the best. You have to learn to take a chance on someone; drop your guard and open your heart. Because if you don't, maybe you'll be safe and you won't get hurt, but in truth, all you will ever have is an empty, unbroken heart and your mask.
PASSION
"I think we have all experienced passion that is not in any sense reasonable."
Passion is a feeling that can come along with love; however, when I say love, I am including love for one's dreams, hopes, family, and of course romance. Passion is an inexplicable rush that runs through one's veins; a rush of feelings for someone or something that gives them reason. Passion drives man to do crazy things; it drives one to risk everything for their love. This passion to which I speak is not to be mistaken for love; it is merely the extension and the drive for more of our love. This feeling is not at all reasonable; as mentioned, it drives us to do crazy things and takes away our inhibitions.
A PART OF YOU
"There's this place in me where your fingertips still rest, your kisses still linger, and your whispers still softly echo. It's the place where a part of you will forrever be a part of me."
When give of ourselves to someone, in a way such as loving them, we unkowingly and unwillingly leave a trace of ourselves with them. Did you ever look upon the face of someone whom you once loved, somone who was once yours, and you can feel their breath settling your face? Did you ever look at their hands and still feel their fingertips caressing your cheek? Did you ever pass by him in the hall and run into his shoulder, and remember that time when you tripped and he caught you? Have you ever sat alone at night and still heard the whispers that you both once sang to eachother, as if as if the ghosts of your lost love still burdened the place in the living room where the two of you once sat? Thats because when we love someone, we give this whole portion of ourselves to them; we give them so much...so much to remember, so much to mourn, so much to smile for. And so of course there will be a piece of this person left in your heart forrver; but don't mourn the fact that you can never be rid of him spiritually becuase this speicific part of him will forrver be the part that loves you. Because that is how you will always remember him.
FORGETTING
"You know what's really sad? I'll spend the rest of my life trying to forget you, and you'll spend the rest of your life never thinking of me again."
Moving on....that's hard. Forgetting....now that's even harder. But the good thing is, that when we start to move on, forgetting becomes less of something to which is imperative for you to be happy, and it comes easier. But before then...what do you do? You spend most days trapped in own mind; and you can do nothing but think about him. You think about how his fingertips tickled your palm...how his eyes sparkled like a clearwater stream, yet they were a mystery like a cloud in the sky...how he never let you know what he was really thinking...but how he always somehow knew what YOU were thinking. You remember the way he looked into eyes just before he kissed you. You remember how everyone always asked you "Are you okay?" and you'd say "yeah", and then everyone would just accept your answer. But HE...he would look hard into your eyes and say "tell the truth". But what makes it even worse is knowing that you're sitting here killing yourself mentally, while he's probably moved on to the next girl. And you sit here and know that no matter what happens...whether you move on or not...you'lll never stop loving him. You could try to forget everything, but evetually when you do remember again, all of these feelings will wash through your heart once again. But that will be a chest that you will open again only when your heart is stronger...after you've healed.
