FIND SOMEONE ELSE
Someone once said, "Why watch the person you love? Love someone else."I can really understand where the person who wrote this quote, is coming from. Why should you go through life loving and wanting someone who you have to accept the rule of "I can look, but never touch"? Such circumstances leave the heart in painful strains; to want someone with all of your being, but having to force youself to watch them every day.I know this feeling, it's the feeling of watching an angel in its midst, all the while, you're a peeping tom who has chosen the wrong house to beg to. The art of love drives the soul to such feelings of excitment and anticipation, but to have to let down one's growing hopes every day can lead to heartbreak.Soon you become so entranced by their face and their presence, that it becomes a drug and you can't truly be sure if you love them or if you're addicted to that smile.But then you look into their eyes and see everything; you see night, day, sun rise, sunset, the morning ocean as it sparkles in its perkiness, and the midnight stars in all their fantastic glory.But then just as you're heart fills with geniune hope that maybe...maybe someday he could love you...then you watch those two glistening eyes float some other girl's way...Then your heart slowly starts to drown into an ocean of misery and hopelessness,to which escape takes the true art of will. So this person simply said "love someone else." This could be good advice. You could let yourself out of this horrible torture of the heart and maybe you could even find someone who could make you happy. But realistically, how can one force themselves to fall out of love with someone? It doesn't work that way. They can try to accept that this person will never want them and they can move on and hope that the pain inside their heart gradually decreases to what can be tolerable; however, its impossible to really and truly get over someone whom you love with all of your heart and soul. Rejection from the one whom you love can be like having a family member pass away, only it's the loss of all hope that your love will love you back, that you are mourning
WORTH THE WHILE
"Without you, tomorrow wouldn't be worth the wait, and yesterday wouldn't be worth remebering.
When we find ourselves in the inescapable binds of love, we don't even realize that slowly, we lose all of our reason to wake up for ourselves, as we once were obligated to. We now have someone else who makes waking up in the morning, a step worth taking every day. And each of those steps that we take in our journey every day, become strides in the long and tiring constitutional called life. And after he, who made time seem to go faster, but never let you miss a moment of happiness, is gone, what is there left to do? You wake up every morning, and sit on the edge of your bed, and you wonder "Why"? "Why even bother?". "For what?" This person gave you the greatest joy in your soul and filled your heart with the beauty of a feeling that never ceased to fill you with untamed excitment. Your love gave you a reason for getting through the tiring work that you have to do every day, he gave yo the reason to laugh when there was nothing funny said, he gave you reason to hum a silly toon while walking to school, and he gave you the reason to know that the sun will shine tomorrrow, even though it rained all day today. And because of him, you can see the beauty inside the worst day; he can make you recall the happy momwents of a day that you, otherwise, would never wish to remember. And those moments were the ones that were filled with everything that was him
SCARS
"True love burns the brightest, but the brightest flames leave the deepest scars."
As we go through life, we are met by so many chesrished loves...family, friends, puppy love, sweathearts, your first real love, true love, and soulmates. Each of the these loves has sparked a kindle in the fire of your heart, but nothing can compare to the depths of the passion to which is brought out from the depths of your soul, when you find true love. YOu had your very best friend who you have loved since 1st grade, and you guys have been inseperable ever since. When you were little, you made a mess fingerpainting with one another, and you chased the boys on the playground together. You had your first crush and talked about him until you made the other scream, you ran to the other crying when you had a big fight with your mom, and you went to your first dance together. The two of you had your first day of high school together, and you helped the other pick out her ot fit for her first date. And when you had a huge fight over your new boyfirend who she doesn't like...you cried when the two of you didn't speak for months. You have the love that many find in their freshman year of high school; he gave you your first kiss and he makes you shiver just by looking you in the eye. He's the most gorgeous thing you have ever seen, and you would believe that he was wonderful no matter how many times he hurt you. But when he finally leaves you for another girl, you cry every night for two months; you don't even think of another guy for almost five. But you survive. And then you have the type of love that comes around once or twice in every life time...he can come at any time. He is everything that you never knew and never knew, you always wanted. He's annoying and imperfect, and says everything you need to hear but he forgets what you want to hear. ANd yet you love him anyway. YOu can't take your eyes off him even if you wanted to, and honestly, you don't want to. You can see his soul, just by looking into his eyes, and it's beautiful. And when he tells you that he's tired of trying to make this work, he leaves you...alone. ANd something inside you dies. YOu're too taken aback to even cry...all you can do is stare out ,into this suddenly empty world,with your lifeless and spiritless eyes. Finding true love is like playing with fire...you're entraced by the flames, but you have to be careful not to get burned.
KEEP HOLDING ON
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice".
WHen we fall in love, sometimes we unknowingly make ourselves dependant on that person. And when they leave us, we have no one; and that;s not unusual because many times we make our love our entire world. But when they leave us...we're shattered. All you want to do is crawl into bed and go into a deep sleep to which you will never have to awaken from. But we can't do that. We can't just give up our entire lives because someone broke our heart...we have to live with pain and tolerate it. As women, we must be strong and find something within ourselves that gives us the reason to keep pulling out what we need from inside ourselves to get through the day. TO be honest, losing someone who ytou grew to love and almost need, is the hardest and most painful thing that you will ever need to go through in life. It takes everything out of you; it drains your soul oof its zest and it mentally scars you, in a way that nothing else ever will.Every time you get your heart broken, you'll lose a piece of your heart, but you have to accept this in the trade of that even though you lost a part of your heart, you gained a part of his in the process.
A DREAM COME TO LIFE
"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep, because reality is finally better than your dreams".
Many girls, including myself a while ago, grow up with the idea that they're just another ordinary girl with an okay face, nice eyes, but under it all, very ordinary. And they find themselves waking up everyday into this semi boring life. I had always read about all of these wonderful and out of the ordinary and romatic things that happened to all of these pretty girls...I wished that for just one moment I could escape my reality and jump headfirst into theirs. As a young teenager, we wake up for high school and read our books, study our histories, subjectourselves to use our talents, and we dream. We dream alot. We dream of someone who could bring us our of our ordinary and boring lives in one fowl swoop; we want it, and we want it badly. And when we meet someone who does just that, it turns everything upside down...the way we see ourselves, the way we process obligations, the way we organize thoughts and ideas...everything. And pretty soon our life is defined by this person...he makes us happy, and then the next day we are a cranky little priss because we're mad as a snake because of something he did last night, or rather something he didn't do. But either way, good or bad, he has added an interesting factor to our life that was never there...he made us feel our first taste of love. And so what do we do? We stop dreaming, and we live.
A HEARTFELT PAIN
"Just admit you never loved me, so the pain you caused me makes sense".
The problem with love is that we always end up getting hurt and hurting others...it's just comes with the territory of giving someone so much power over you. You give them power because you have no other choice; giving someone yuor love makes you vulnerable to crash and burn because you have put down that wall. Sometimes it's easier for us to believe that the person who caused us so much pain never really loved us, because then we wouldn't have to believe that there was ever REAL love between you, you won't misss out on anything with that person in the future, and you won't have to accept that you'll get hurt like this again. If you don't accept that there was real and genuine love between you, than that also gives you hope that one day, the person that REALLY loves you, will never hurt you the way this person did. Also, we look to blame others for love that didn't work out ...as immature as it sounds, it's just easier. And then there are just times that someone just cannot return the river of emotions for you, as you might have given them...and that is the saddest part of opening your heart to someone, when they close it off.
CHASE ME U IDIOT!!!
"I wanna run...but only far enough to make you miss me."
As young girls, we're built to have a tongue that burns with stubborness and many of us have a have a little black spot in our hearts where our pride lies. We always want our love to man up and become this superhero for us; we want him to become hopelessly devoted to our face and to cringe at the thought of us getting even the smallest cut. But even more than that, we want what we won't give; we him to chase after us when we turn our back on him. But we never really turn our back on him...we're stubborn and we want him to proffess that he NEEDS us. We're feminine, and in that repect, we always feel the desire to be reassured and feel wanted and loved like no other. We want him to stand outside our window and throw pebbles and beg for us to take him back..we want so much. SOmeone once said,"If you love somebody, set them free. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were." This relates; we want our man to be that one special person that NEEDS us...the one that has no other choice than to come begging at our door. But most of all, we want assurance that he really loves us, but what we don't see is that, just by setting him free like that, we won't know whether he really loves us. Because it very well many be that he did indeed love us but he wasn't willing to spend his life at your beck and call waiting for you to take him back...he might have been hurt and heartbroken himself...and you might have just missed out on the best thing of your life.
ONCE WAS FILLED...NOW IS EMPTY
"A broken heart is a heart that has felt love."
I think the reason that someone with a broken heart feels so....well, broken and empty is because love is such a completely wonderful and fantastic feeling. It puts you on a high that makes you feel like anything and everything is possible. It makes you so happy and excited; love takes your heart for a ride and let's it soar in the heavens. But when all of that beauty and wonder is taken away from you and ripped from your chest, it leaves a hole...a hole that you would never have under a other circumstances, if you had never fallen in love. If you think about it, when you fall in love, you experience all of these new feelings and emotions. So love adds to the size of your heart, but when you're left hearbroken, the experience drills holes through all of that new flesh in your heart. So its like love brings about new flesh in its arriving moment and then destroys it all in its exit; except it never really leaves, it just sits there ripped in pieces inside your chest forrever. But, the key is that love, even when it breaks your heart and leaves you broken, is not cruel or evil. So it when it destroys all of that new flesh that grew and added to the size of your heart, that it had brought you, it won't destroy or break any other part of your heart. It will only take what it brought. So this is love. A broken heart is one that had to have loved at one time in its life because to have been destroyed, you would need that new flesh which love brings you in the first place.
POCAHANTAS QUOTE
"I'd rather die tomorrow than live a hundred years without knowing you." – John Smith
I used to think that when John Smith said this quote, he was exaggerating. Then it suddenly occured to me, I understand exactly where he is coming from. There are people in our lives who can come in, and they turn it upside down. As is obvious, upside down isn't always the safest position; however, it lets you look at the world in a new perspective. WHen this person comes into your life, your vulnerable and; threrfore you are never safe, but you could care less because of the beautiful feelings that this person bringas out of your heart. When you meet someone who does this to you, you can't imagine a day, let alone ten years, in which they are abcent from your life. And that's when you truly realize and understand that you can't let yourself imagine going on with life as though you'd never met them; you would rather be nonexistant.
SET THEM FREE
"If you love somebody, set them free. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were."
If you really and truly love someone, and you think they are unhappy or don't want you anymore, you would have to find the stregnth inside yourself to let them free. If you love someone, you would have to be able to do this because if your second half is unhappy, ultimately you are unhappy and you want nothing more than to see the smile on their face that you first fell in love with. SOmetimes when we think about someone leaving us, we think "enerything would just be so perfect if he would stay with me; I could make him happy". But this isn't always true. We don't think about the fact that if he stays with us, and he's unhappy, things won't be perfect; you'll be hurt and you will grieve his sadness and evetually he will grow to hate you. Sometimes we just have to accept that we can't always be the one to make the person we love, happy. It hurts to think about, but if we really love them then we have to set them free to find the person who does make them happy. So when you set your love free, and they explore what is out there in the world, and they realize that, what they had when they had you was amazing, then they were truly yours. But if your love never returns, then you know that your love for him couldn't have been enough to move mountains, as you thought because it certainly wasn't enough to bring him back to you.
THE POWER TO DESTROY YOU
"Love is giving someone the power to destroy you, but trusting them not to."
When we love someone, we don't mean to, but because we open all of these feelings and direct them to this person, we let our guard down. It's almost impossible to love someone wiothout trusting them, because we can't fully trust that if we open these usually guarded emotions, that they won't throw them away like yesterday's garbage. So if we love someone with all of heart, we trust that they will do their best not to hurt us. THis is the sad truth of love: it connects straight with hurt andpain. It's a fifty fifty chance that today you'll be on a high and be in love, and tommorrow you'll be crying your eyes out because he left you. Sometimes we don't always put our trust into the right hands, and they break us. But that only teaches and prepares us more so that next time we may have a better idea of who might be the right person.
